abbey_19
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Bad Situation... Need Help =(Ever since i started my new job there has been a guy there i liked.. i cant stop watching him when im in the office and things, so we all went out Friday night and i ended up being with him and now i cant stop thinking about him.. but i love my fiance aswell and i have 2 kids with him!!
everyone at work said i shud stay with my fiance but be with this guy aswell and see how it all works out as me and my fiance do argue a lot.. i just dont know what to do im thinking of leaving work..
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char1402
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oh hun - what a pickle!!
you have to think do you love your fiance?
its NEVER a good thing to be with 2 people at the same time - everyone will get hurt.
Have a long think about if you want to be with your fiance - and if you dont i wouldnt run straight into the arms of someone else - cause what if you feel nothing for him in a few months??
When you saw you were with hm - do you mean you slept togheter??
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abbey_19
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did everything but sleep together  i feel so guilty..
i do love my fiance especially now because we have been getting on better if it had been a few months back i would have said i dont love him like i should.. but i cant stop thinking about this guy and i have to go back to work tommorow! xx
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abbey_19
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any more opinions?
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Cath
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I would stay with your fiance if you love him or you could end up losing them both.
Cath
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weechatterbox
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oh what a tricky situation honey!!
ok last may, i met a GORGEOUS guy, who instantly started texting me pure filth (lol) and inviting me out.
i had been with my partner for four years, but our relationship was pretty much dead in the water.
and i wanted to go see this other bloke! i really did.
unfortunately i have the world's worst guilty conscience. i mean, i confess EVERYTHING! and i really do mean everything. comes from a sh*tty relationship when i was 20, when my ex made me feel bad about even smiling at another bloke!
anyway, i didn't DO anything with this guy, but we were online to one another and texting constantly....all really dirty stuff.
it made me realise that there was something huge missing in my relationship which i didn't WANT to fix.
so i left scott.....
seven months down the line, we're only JUST (hopefully) getting close to selling our house, we still live together but HATE each other and it's been a total nightmare.
but i KNOW i made the right choice.
scott was not right for me.
i stayed with him for longer than i should because i WANTED him to be the right man for me. but if you're not happy, you have to face reality.
did you say you have a little one to think of?
i have two children (tho they are from a previous relationship) but they thought on scott as their dad.
for a long time i stuck about cos i didn't want them to feel like they were losing their father.
but in the end i realised they would never be happy living in the atmosphere that lingered in our house....cos i was MISERABLE.
don't beat yourself up about your encounter with this bloke.
i believe everything happens for a reason.
but take time to get a clear head. imagine life without your fiance? would you be happy?
private message me any time.
thinking of you, hope work is ok today, and sending you lots of love.
gailxxxxx
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MissJet
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Aw hun, I feel for you 
You really need to get this other guy out of your head for a bit while you concentrate on how you feel for your fiance and what you want/need from him. You may not realise it but your feelings for the other man may impair your judgemnt on your existing relationship.
The hurt and heartache that might come from this can be devestating. Just make sure you know what you want before you do anything. Be careful hun but do try to keep your chin up, it won't be like this forever x
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